Troy was an outstanding guard in his previous basketball club. He gave his all during practice, and worked even harder on his own time since he knew the team relied on him to win. But in his desire to improve his skills, he changed clubs to gain exposure to a higher level of endurance. His new teammates were more athletic, taller, and better shooters. Troy saw the difference and worried about losing playing time during matches.
Over time, Troy noticed his playing game diminishing as his coach went with his tested players to continue the team´s winning streak. With his playing time reduced, Troy easily got nervous on the court and started missing his shots more frequently. He made crucial errors down the stretch. He also started skipping practices.
Over a quiet dinner at home, Troy talked about his frustrations in basketball. He lost his confidence since most of the other players overshadowed him. He was ready to abandon the sport because he did not enjoy playing anymore.
His parents walked him back from the time he fell in love with the sport when he was twelve. They reminded him how he could talk basketball all day, stay fearless playing against older players, and not worry about making mistakes because he loved the sport. They encouraged him to play without worries of failing and to show his coach that with hard work, he can develop his skills. But most of all, they reminded him that success comes with the 'growth mindset, resilience, and willpower' (Cherry, 2020).
After the sentimental encouragement, Troy chose to spend more time on the court to improve his skills. He started to enjoy playing again and talked more about basketball when he got home like the old days. He performed better during practice and showed determination to prove he can be a better player. Several weeks later, Troy played like a warrior and scored 24 points in one game. He won the respect of his coach and the admiration of his teammates.
Nowadays Troy rushes down the street in excitement to practice. He often comes home with a big smile on his face ready to tell his parents how he out-defended the tallest guy on his team.
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*Name has been changed in the story for anonymity.
Cherry, K. (2020). 6 Steps for Success in Life. Very Well Mind. Retrieved May, 2021 from https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-be-successful-in-life-4165743