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Testimonial: Lack of Trust

Dylan is a 15-year-old boy who is Nate´s neighbor. They have been good friends since Nate met Dylan when he was 10 years old. Since then, their friendship has blossomed.


The boys are usually together after school and during holidays. Dylan comes around Nate´s home more often since his parents spend long hours at work. Due to lack of parental supervision from an early age, Dylan´s social behavior does not meet Nate´s family standards. The lack of parental guidance is evident when he comes over to Nate’s house. He would rummage through the cupboards or turn on the television without permission from his hosts. When he plays online games excessively, he has been asked to put away his mobile phone. Sometimes, he displays rude manners even around Nate´s parents, such as ignoring their questions. Worst of all, he frequently lies to his parents to extend his playdates at Nate’s house.


Lately, Nate’s parents have noticed that he has been following the bad examples set by Dylan, such as increased online gaming, and made-up excuses to hide the truth. Their concerns are growing since Nate is emulating Dylan’s actions at home. They have discussed their observations with Nate to let him understand why they disapprove of their growing friendship. To respect Nate’s decision of keeping his friendship with Dylan, Nate’s parents continue to monitor his social contact with Dylan. Their time hanging out together is supervised and activities are usually planned out. Nate is aware that his parents do not trust Dylan compared to his other school friends.


Study (Effective, 2004, as cited in Lee, 2020) indicates that discipline is vital for the child’s healthy development, mainly for happiness and well-being. Children, who have inadequate parental supervision at home, will not develop the necessary skills to maintain healthy relationships and overcome the challenges in life. As a result, the lives of these children will be at risk because it will stunt the essential skills they need to be successful in life, like self-discipline, respect, emotional development, and cooperation.


When adults seek help for their child’s challenges, it does not mean they are incompetent parents. The child may just require extra support in the areas of building self-esteem, being resilient, making good decisions, sustaining harmonious relationships or regulating emotions that are beyond one's parenting ability.

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*Names have been changed in the story for anonymity


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Resource:


Lee, K. (2020). Surprising Reasons Why We Need to Discipline Children. Very Well Family. Retrieved February, 2021 from https://www.verywellfamily.com/surprising-reasons-why-we-need-to-discipline-children-620115