Giving children an opportunity to earn privileges (Morin, 2019) will make them value the things they have worked hard for. Granting them with lavish gifts and the latest gadgets only allow for a temporary gratification. Generating long lasting happiness is equipping children with a wealth of experience, such as exploring a new place or learning a new skill like singing. Studies reveal that children feel happiest when they spend quality time with their parents, creating remarkable memories and not just collecting unnecessary possessions.
Morin (2019) emphasizes that overindulging children may affect the child’s psychological well-being leading to materialism and ungratefulness. There are three different types of overindulgence (Lee, 2019):
Providing too many material possessions such as toys
Over nurturing, like cleaning up after playtime
Soft structure such as having no boundaries nor rules
Dr. Christine Carter (Lamb, 2008) believes that children naturally acquire various positive emotions when basic skills are transformed into habits. Studies have proven that children who are emotionally positive tend to be ‘happier, healthier, better learners, and can easily get along with others’ (Gavin, n.d.). Earning privileges is just one of the basic skills that adults need to equip their children in sustaining P.E.A.C.E. at home.
When adults seek help for their child’s challenges, it does not mean they are incompetent parents. The child may just require extra support in the areas of building self-esteem, being resilient or regulating emotions that are beyond one's parenting ability.
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