There are multitudes of ways to preserve a connection with your child in sustaining and strengthening relationships. Spending special time is the greatest investment you can ever bestow on your child (e.g. eating meals together, reading aloud, nurturing spiritual life). Whenever you are with your child, take the opportunity to communicate, share and listen to each other's stories, frustrations, anger, and joy. It will enhance your emotional bond with your child by creating fond memories and reconnecting in meaningful and helpful ways, especially in the demanding workload at school or office. Markham (2015) recommends fifteen minutes of quality time a day to make your child feel secure and happy. Giving them a hug and kiss especially when they are feeling down will relieve their emotional distress.
Having a meal together is one of the most typical family daily routines. As the saying goes, “a family who eats together, stays together.” Eating together is an integral part of family life. Studies (Morin, 2019) show that children who eat with their parents are less likely to be overweight or have eating disorders. Teens who eat dinner with their parents are also less likely to experience substance abuse issues or exhibit behavior problems.
Dr. Christine Carter (Lamb, 2008) believes that children naturally acquire various positive emotions when basic skills are transformed into habits. Studies have proven that children who are emotionally positive tend to be ‘happier, healthier, better learners, and can easily get along’ (Gavin, n.d.) with their peers and adults.
When adults seek help for their child’s challenges, it does not mean they are incompetent parents. The child may just require extra support in the areas of building self-esteem, being resilient or regulating emotions that are beyond one's parenting ability.
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Morin, A. (2019). How to Raise Happy Kids for Success in Life. Very Well Family. Retrieved December, 2019 from https://www.verywellfamily.com/how-to-raise-happy-kids-4176629